The Apostle John writes in 1 John 2:16, "For everything in the world - the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes and the pride of life - come not from the Father but from the world."
Many men consciously struggle with lust and much is said and taught about it in the Christian's men's movement. The literature and audio-visual resources on lust are abundant and replete with “tips and techniques” about how to spot lust, resist it and conquer it.
Yet the most insidious sin we men commit is pride, to which we’re by and large oblivious. The early church viewed pride as the utmost evil because it leads to all other sins. C. S. Lewis called it the “Great Sin”. Men's teaching and study resources on pride are actually pretty rare. Pride is a rare sermon topic or sermon series. It's also something you'll rarely, if ever, hear a man ask his brother to pray for him about. "Hey Bro, I'm really struggling with my pride this week. Would you pray that God would really humble me?" As men, we will often admit to the brothers our yielding to “fleshy” temptations but confessing and repenting of pride easily flies under the radar. Likewise we men often enter into accountability relationships with another man or men yet few, if any, of us ask to be held accountable for our pride. Nor do we happily exhort one another toward humility.
C. S. Lewis has much to say to us about pride and why it is so subtle, pervasive and pernicious. Likewise Lewis is deeply insightful about its contradistinction - humility
In a chapter called "The Great Sin" in Mere Christianity, Lewis writes,
"There is one vice of which no man in the world is free. Which everyone in the world loathes when he sees it in someone else, and of which hardly any people, except Christians ever imagine they themselves are guilty. I have heard people admit that they are bad tempered or that they cannot keep their heads about girls or drink. Or even that they are cowards. I do not think that I have ever heard anyone who was not a Christian accuse himself of this vice. . . . There is no fault that make a man more unpopular and no fault of which we are more unconscious of in ourselves. The more we have it ourselves the more we dislike it in others. The vice I am talking about is pride or self conceit. And the virtue opposite to it in Christian morals is called humility."
He further observes,
"In God you come up against something which is in every respect immeasurably superior to yourself. Unless you know God as that—and, therefore, know yourself as nothing in comparison —you do not know God at all. As long as you are proud you cannot know God. A proud man is always looking down on things and people: and, of course, as long as you are looking down, you cannot see something that is above you....That raises a terrible question. How is it that people who are quite obviously eaten up with Pride can say they believe in God and appear to themselves very religious? I am afraid it means they are worshiping an imaginary God. They theoretically admit themselves to be nothing in the presence of this phantom God, but are really all the time imagining how He approves of them and thinks them far better than ordinary people… Whenever we find that our religious life is making us feel that we are good —above all, that we are better than someone else — I think we can be sure that we are being acted on, not by God, but by the devil."
"It is a terrible thing that the worst of all the vices can smuggle itself into the very centre of our religious life. But you can see why. The other, and less bad, vices come from the devil working on us through our animal nature. But this does not come through our animal nature. It comes directly from Hell. It is purely spiritual: consequently it is far more subtle and deadly. For the same reason, Pride can often be used to beat down the simpler vices. Teachers, in fact, often appeal to a boy’s Pride, or, as they call it, his self-respect, to make him behave decently: many a man has overcome cowardice, or lust, or ill-temper by learning to think that they are beneath his dignity – that is, by Pride. The devil laughs. He is perfectly content to see you becoming chase and brave and self-controlled provided, all the time, he is setting up in you the Dictatorship of Pride – just as he would be quite content to see your chilblains cured if he was allowed, in return to give you cancer. For Pride is spiritual cancer: it eats up the very possibility of love, or contentment, or even common sense."
Pride is the complete anti-God state of mind and is not as much for something as against something. Evil itself is not something—it’s the absence of something. Lewis observes, “Goodness is, so to speak, itself: badness is only spoiled goodness. And there must be something good first before it can be spoiled… Evil is a parasite, not an original thing.” Thus, the source of all our ills comes from what Lewis says is “putting yourself first—wanting to be the center—wanting to be God".
So what do you do with this?
Well, here's challenge. From his brief yet excellent booklet From Pride to Humility, Stuart Scott has compiled a helpful list of thirty biblical indicators as to the extent pride lurks in our hearts. Read them, meditate on them and share them other brothers as together you take on the "Great Sin".
2. A lack of gratitude (2 Chronicles 32:25)
4. Seeing yourself as better than others (Luke 7:36-50)
5. Having an inflated view of your importance, gifts and abilities (Acts 12:21-23)
6. Being focused on the lack of your gifts and abilities (1 Cor. 12:14-25)
7. Perfectionism (Matthew 23:24-28)
8. Talking too much (Proverbs 10:19)
9. Talking too much about yourself (Proverbs 27:2; Galatians 6:3)
10. Seeking independence or control (1 Corinthians 1:10-13; Ephesians 5:21)
11. Being consumed with what others think (Galatians 1:10)
12. Being devastated or angered by criticism (Proverbs 13:1)
15. A lack of service (Galatians 5:13, Ephesians 2:10)
17. Being defensive or blame-shifting (Genesis 3:12-13; Proverbs 12:1)
18. A lack of admitting when you are wrong (Proverbs 10:17)
19. A lack of asking forgiveness (Matthew 5:23-24)
20. A lack of biblical prayer (Luke 18:10-14)
21. Resisting authority or being disrespectful (1 Peter 2:13-17)
22. Voicing preferences or opinions when not asked (Philippians 2:1-4)
23. Minimizing your own sin and shortcomings (Matthew 7:3-5)
25. Being impatient or irritable with others (Ephesians 4:31-32)
26. Being jealous or envious (1 Corinthians 13:4)
27. Using others (Matthew 7:12; Philippians 2:3-4)
29. Using attention-getting tactics (1 Peter 3:3,4)
30. Not having close relationships (Proverbs 18:1-2; Hebrews 10:24-25)
Here is a list of twenty-four manifestations of what Christ exulting humility should produce in your life. Make these a frequent measure of self-examination and accountability.
1. Recognizing and trusting God’s character (Psalm 119:66)
2. Seeing yourself as having no right to question or judge an Almighty and Perfect God (Psalm 145:17; Romans 9:19-23)
5. Being overwhelmed with God’s undeserved grace and goodness (Psalm 116:12-19)
6. Thankfulness and gratitude in general towards others (1 Thess. 5:18)
7. Being gentle and patient (Colossians 3:12-14)
9. Having an accurate view of your gifts and abilities (Romans 12:3)
11. Talking about others only if it is good or for their good (Proverbs 11:13)
13. Preferring others over yourself (Romans 12:10)
15. Having a teachable spirit (Proverbs 9:9)
16. Seeking always to build up others (Ephesians 4:29)
17. Serving (Galatians 5:13)
18. A quickness in admitting when you are wrong (Proverbs 29:23)
19. A quickness in granting and asking for forgiveness (Colossians 3:12-14)
21. Minimizing others’ sins or shortcomings in comparison to one’s own (Matthew 7:3-4)
22. Being genuinely glad for others (Romans 12:15)
23. Being honest and open about who you are and the areas in which you need growth (Philippians 3:12-14; Galatians 6:2)
24. Possessing close relationships (Acts 20:31-38)
© 2011, Dave Brown is a pastor and the director of the Washington Area Coalition of Men’s Ministries (WACMM) and has been the men’s pastor at McLean Bible Church in McLean, Va. He served for 30 years in the federal government’s Senior Executive Service (SES), including eight years as an appointee of President Ronald Reagan. He did his seminary work at Trinity Evangelical Divinity School and Reformed Theological Seminary. He’s been a leadership consultant, university administrator and member of the board of directors for the C.S. Lewis Institute.