Monday, January 4, 2021

Doctrine and Theology Resources for Men

WACMM recommends the following books on doctrine and theology to specifically help brothers in the faith to grow in the love and knowledge of Christ.

PLEASE NOTE
: WACMM does not receive any compensation or remuneration for any of its
recommendations and endorsements.


Systematic Theology (Second Edition)
by Wayne Grudem,
This most widely used resource of the last 25 years has been completely revised and expanded. Highly recommended. Discounted Here 

Concise Theology: A Guide to Historic Christian Beliefs
by J.I. Packer
Here


Knowing God
by J.I. Packer Here


Essential Truths of the Christian Faith
by R.C. Sproul Here


Everyone's a Theologian: An Introduction to Systematic Theology
by R.C. Sproul Here


Biblical Doctrine: A Systematic Summary of Bible Truth
by John MacArthur Here


Pilgrim Theology: Core Doctrines for Christian Disciples
by Michael Horton Here


Core Christianity: Finding Yourself in God's Story
by Michael Horton Here


God's Big Picture: Biblical Overview by Vaughan Roberts
Here


Foundations of the Christian Faith: A Comprehensive and Readable Theology
by James Montgomery Boice
Here


Systematic Theology: An Introduction to Christian Belief by John Frame
Here


Basic Christianity
by John Stott Here


The Cross of Christ by John Stott Here


Here Other Good Books About Biblical Manhood and the Intersection of Faith and Culture:

Gentle and Lowly: The Heart of Christ for Sinners and Sufferers by Dane Ortlund
WACMM's 2020 Men's Book of the Year. Here 


The Rise and Triumph of the Modern Self: Cultural Amnesia, Expressive Individualism, and the Road to Sexual Revolution
by Carl Trueman. 
Here

Dignity Revolution
by Daniel Darling.
Here

Eikon: A Journal for Biblical Manhood
by Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood
  Download Here

 

Thursday, December 31, 2020

Gospel Men Are Champions of Human Dignity

As men who preach, teach and disciple or otherwise lead ministries to men in churches or in regional or national parachurch ministries, we should be known foremost as Gospel Men and the fiercest champions of human dignity. What our friend Dan Darling says should be true of our churches should be likewise true and characteristic of ministries to men.

“…we [must] resist the world’s definitions of worth and power. It means we see the child with Down’s syndrome as a fully valuable member of our body. It means we resist the urge to only put on our platforms those who fit the cultural definition of beauty or masculinity. It means we are the one, and perhaps the only, place in society where you are accepted and loved not because of what you can contribute, but because of who you are in Christ.

“Those who are disabled, those who are poor, those who might not neatly fit into our modern notions of success, should have a prominent place in our assemblies not simply because they have full human dignity as image-bearers of God, but because each one is a future king or queen of the universe, who will one day reign with Christ.

“Our churches should be a collection of people that you would not normally see together. Just imagine congregations filled with people who have no business being together, other than the fact that they are redeemed people of God. Imagine rich and poor, conservatives and liberals, blue collars and white collars and no collars. Imagine a parking lot with hybrids and pickups, gun racks and whole foods stickers. Imagine a church lobby filled with walkers and strollers, canes and car seats, tattoos and bow ties. Imagine a church comprised of people whose primary, and sometimes only, commonality is their allegiance to the gospel of Jesus Christ.

“We should long for this in our churches, but more than that, we should each ask ourselves what we are doing to make it more of a reality. This begins with each of us accepting—no, celebrating—the upside-down nature of the kingdom. It begins with each of us applying the kingdom ethic of leadership in our own hearts—seeing others as made in God’s image, and so serving others because we wish to cultivate their humanity and promote their dignity rather than because we wish to cultivate our ambition and promote our reputation. It begins with treating others with the dignity that the Lord Jesus did, and does, and will.”

From The Dignity Revolution by Daniel Darling

Thursday, December 10, 2020

Older Men Can Teach Young Guys A Thing or Two

Willie Mays was my hero back in the mid-late 50’s. In this 2010 interview in GQ Magazine, Willie tells this wonderful story about when, as a 17-year-old, he faced the ageless, legendary Satchel Paige for the first time:

"It was 1948. Satchel had a very, very good fastball. But he threw me a little breaking ball, just to see what I could do, and I hit it off the top of the fence. And I got a double. When I got to second, Satchel told the third baseman, 'Let me know when that little boy comes back up.'

"Three innings later, I go to kneel down in the on-deck circle, and I hear the third baseman say, 'There he is.' Satch looked at the third baseman, and then he looked at me.

"I walk halfway to home plate and he says, 'Little boy.' I say, 'Yes, sir?' because Satch was much older than I am, so I was trying to show respect.

"He walked halfway to home plate and said, 'Little boy, I'm not going to trick you. I'm going to throw you three fastballs and you're going to go sit down.' And I'm saying in my mind, 'I don't think so.' If he threw me three of the same pitch, I'm going to hit it somewhere.

"He threw me two fastballs and I just swung...I swung right through it. And the third ball he threw, and I tell people this all the time, he threw the ball and then he started walking. And he says, 'Go sit down.' This is while the ball was in the air.

"He was just a magnificent pitcher."

 

Sunday, November 29, 2020

True Manhood: Audacious Invincible Meekness

We are seeing today a rebooting of the radical individualism of the 1970's and '80's. It was Tom Wolfe who originally named the 70's in particular "The Me Decade," but the consumeristic excess and further political polarization of the 80's only compounded the aggressive narcissism of the culture, especially among men. Think of Wall Street's Gordon Gecko or Sylvester Stallone's Rambo rolled into one.

In the 90's and 00's we experimented with a kinder, gentler masculinity, but without Christ at the center, sensitive manhood becomes milquetoast, passive, pathetic. And without Christ at the center, rugged, aggressive manhood becomes, to use a phrase not uncontroversial today, "toxic masculinity." 

And so now, even this very day and week, our culture is wrestling with the heart of masculinity. 

Every several years, we see these micro-movements arise, sometimes as a response to alleged feminization of Christianity, sometimes as a reaction to feminist influence in general. We’ve seen the come and go of The Promise Keepers. As they were too touchy-feely and too Baby Boomer-centric, we then saw the swell and crest of the John Eldredge Wild at Heart trend. As that was not theological or hipster enough, we then saw the rise and fall of macho Calvinism. Vestiges of each of these movements still fill various tide pools on the rocky shore of the church today. But the current wave of manhood reclamation is something different. The current wave seems to be an odd convergence of Jungian pyschology and right-wing politics, a multi-pronged response to hipster softness, political correctness, and a perceived infiltration of evangelicalism by cultural Marxism.

Today’s evangelical hyper-masculinity proliferates among anonymous Twitter accounts and boisterous YouTube channels. Its advocates quote Scripture alongside non-Christian political theorists and philosophers, and even voices from the so-called "intellectual dark web." It has co-opted jargon first pioneered online by the political alt-right and Internet white supremacists. These voices have taken to categorizing men as either “alpha” or “beta,” classifications that most recently came to resurgence within misogynistic web forums.

Is there good in young men rejecting passivity, taking responsibility, and seeking to better themselves and the world around them? Yes, undoubtedly. But the arteries of anger, victimhood, and aggressive machismo running through the new movement do not bode well. We have seen the story of toxic masculinity play out time and time again, and it never ends neatly.

The hyper-masculine evangelical man comes across the apostle Paul telling the Judaizers to emasculate themselves (Gal. 5:12) and builds an entire persona around the verse while disregarding the vast amount of ink spent on gentleness, quietness, peaceability, and self-control. None of those qualities are conducive to the kind of power these aspiring alpha males want. But they are exceptionally conducive to the kind of power Jesus promises us through the Spirit.

I do not see much talk amongst any tribe of Christian men today about meekness. Every now and again some author or preacher will define meekness for men as “power under control,” which is a fine definition as far as it goes, but it always feels a bit like spin to me, a way to make what Christ commends sound more appealing to those least interested in it.

The wild-at-heart alpha male believes the world is what he makes it. And the world he makes turns out not so hospitable to those unlike him, and not really worthy of his own imaging of God.

By contrast, Jesus says, “Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth” (Matt. 5:5, ESV). Paul says, “I appeal to you by the meekness and gentleness of Christ” (2 Cor. 10:1) and “we were gentle among you, as a nurse nurtures her own children” (1 Thess. 2:7).

What are they commending as a thoroughly Christlike disposition? Power under control, I suppose you could say. But more accurately, weaponized weakness. Not passivity. Not spinelessness. But a fearless humility resting in the Spiritual security of Christ.

What does it look like?

In action, meekness often means not having to have the last word. Meekness means not feeling like every online scrum and outrage du jour needs your two cents, much less your forty-five minute point-by-point podcast debunking. Meekness isn’t afraid of losing face, being seen as weak, being misjudged or underestimated. Meekness is not concerned that you feel the weight of it—and thus you do.

Every now and again I read some male diatribe against the feminization of the church, explaining why men don’t go to church services. This explains the rise of alternate, tribal church experiences like “biker church” or “cowboy church.” These men cannot abide church experiences that do not center their feelings and interests. They are not secure enough for that.

It turns out that the hyper-masculine man is a lot more fragile than we thought.

He really must feel uncomfortable by the Sermon on the Mount. Because only namby-pamby pushovers walk second miles and give shirts to those who ask for coats. The alpha male cannot make heads or tails of “blessed are the meek.”

The devil, we should add, hates meekness. He himself of course is not meek, and he does not nurture it among his unwitting quarry. Passivity, yes. Meekness, no.

Thus, seeking meekness is audacious. It is counter-cultural in both the world and evangelicalism and therefore it is an invitation to be despised. But the truly meek aren't worried. Their manhood does not rest on outward exhibitions or the approval of other men.

What the devil wants from us is aggressive and assertive self-interest. If the Great Commandment is to love God first and neighbor second, our enemy would love if we’d all just look out for “number one.” The feeding of our pride is a key campaign strategy for his minions, because “Pride comes before destruction, and an arrogant spirit before a fall” (Prov. 16:18).

In the end, those who believe the world is what they make it will discover themselves in a wasteland of their own devising.

But the meek? They will live forever.

 

Jared C. Wilson is Assistant Professor of Pastoral Ministry at Spurgeon College, Author in Residence at Midwestern Seminary, General Editor of For The Church (and co-host of the For The Church Podcast), Director of the Pastoral Training Center at Liberty Baptist Church, and author of numerous books, including The Pastor’s Justification, The Imperfect DiscipleThe Gospel According to Satan, and The Gospel-Driven Church. A frequent preacher and speaker at churches and conferences

Saturday, November 28, 2020

Resist Political Idolatry

Andy Crouch’s words from Playing God help us see the devastating effects of idolizing politics:

All idols begin by offering great things for a very small price. All idols then fail, more and more consistently, to deliver on their original promises, while ratcheting up their demands… In the end they fail completely, even as they make categorical demands. In the memorable phrase of the psychiatrist Jeffrey Satinover, idols ask for more and more, while giving less and less, until eventually they demand everything and give nothing.

Wednesday, September 30, 2020

Reaching Out to the Military in Your Community

Ministry leaders, what if you had access to a special people group within your church who
could benefit from your ministry, but also help you reach your community for Christ?  And what if they could then be mobilized to take the gospel message to the uttermost parts of the earth, helping to fulfill The Great Commission (Matt 28:18-20)?  Would you be interested in making them part of your ministry strategy?

I hope the answer is yes because chances are you may already have access to them right now.  They are the men and women of our military services, both active, guard, reserve, and retired.  They are indeed special.  And you could say they are "missionaries in waiting" ... waiting for you to train, equip, and deploy them as ambassadors for Christ.  

Here in the National Capital Region, the population is dense with military people.  Consider this:  there's about 50,000 active duty who reside here, with another 70,000 dependents and family members, along with more than 30,000 veterans.  There's no other location in the country that has 10 military hubs or bases so close together.  In sum, there's upwards of 150,000 military in the greater Washington DC area.  

The spiritual needs are significant.  With 2 of 3 military marriages struggling and many unraveling, 4 of 5 combat veterans silently struggling with trauma, and 22 veterans a day committing suicide (that's one nearly every 60 minutes in our nation), the needs for ministry to the military have never been greater!

Here's the top 10 reasons why I think military men and women deserve your attention and why they could benefit you in your ministry:

1.  They're tested and proven leaders.

2.  They know how to work well in teams.

3.  Their service in various assignments around the nation and overseas make them highly adaptable to new experiences.

4.  Having been to a number of professional development schools and training make them teachable AND good teachers.

5.  They serve as role models for others.

6.  They're mission-focused and results-driven.

7.  Honor and integrity are core values from their military service.  

8.  They're highly disciplined.

9.  They're courageous and not afraid to take on challenging tasks.

10. They remain committed and dedicated to organizational goals.

Those attributes would be attractive on anyone's resume.  

Think of this special group as cross cultural missionaries and as force multipliers.  Your church can help impact the world for Christ by Ministering to the military in your sphere of influence, Mobilizing them as they become equipped to deploy or move on to their next location, and then watch them Multiplying by training others to be disciples.  II Tim 2:2 (NASB) says, "The things which you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses, entrust these to faithful men who will be able to teach others also."

Keith Morgan serves as the Local Director for Cru Military (Keith.Morgan@CruMilitary.org) and also as Director for the National Capital Region Military Ministry Alliance (www.NCRMMA.org) which focuses on collaborative, gospel-focused ministry in the NCR.so that everyone knows someone who truly follows Jesus.

  

Things to Remember About the Election

Former senior pastor of McLean Bible Church Lon
Solomon in Northern Virginia reminds we Christ-

followers of a few critical things about the upcoming election:

#1. God is in control. End of story. He decides who will be President. Period. "Let everyone be subject to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God." Romans 13:1 "Jesus answered [speaking to Pilate], “You would have no power over me if it were not given to you from above.” John 19:11 "No one… can exalt themselves. It is God who judges: He brings one down, he exalts another." Psalms 75:6-7. As the Bible states, God puts leaders in place, people do not. We can’t begin to know what God is thinking or allowing. He exalts both the godly and ungodly to fulfill His purposes.

#2. The world is not going to end regardless of who is elected. Jesus is still King. We have seen worse and survived. (read your Bible about some of the immoral leaders that God used). If you had God’s birds-eye view of the human race, we all look pretty immoral and hopeless. "The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?" Jeremiah 17:9. You can trust that God has a plan. I don’t know what the plan is, but I do know God ALWAYS has a plan for His Glory. Always.

#3. We can never, ever put our faith and trust in any human being, only Christ. If Jesus were on the ballot this fall, He would get my vote, but He is not. Not voting is not an option. It is our responsibility as Americans to exercise our civic duty and vote. Pray for God’s will to be done, vote as closely as you can for those that will uphold biblical principles, then put your faith and trust in Christ alone…..and vote.

What's Wrong With You Men? Seriously!

A few years back at a Christian conference  the
late Dr. R.C Sproul. uttered a line in response to a audience question that has since become quite famous: "What's wrong with you people!" The question was:

"Since God is slow to anger and patient, then why, when man first sinned, was His wrath and punishment so severe and long lasting?"

R.C.'s blunt answer was as follows:

Timeout! Didn’t we just have that question a second ago?

God’s punishment for Adam was so severe?

This creature from the dirt defied the everlasting holy God. After that, God had said “the day that you shall eat of it, you shall surely die” and instead of dieing (thanatos) that day, he lived another day and was clothed in his nakedness, by pure grace, and had the consequences of the curse applied for quite some time, but the worse curse would come upon the one who seduced him, whose head would be crushed by the seed of the woman. And the punishment was too severe? What’s wrong with you people? I’m serious! I mean, this is what’s wrong with the Christian church today. We don’t know who God is, and we don’t know who we are.

The question is, why wasn’t it infinitely more severe? If we have any understanding of our sin and any understanding of who God is, that’s the question. Isn’t it?


R.C. wasn't trying to funny but was all too serious about those who call themselves "Christians" yet seemingly do not know who God is nor who we are. Watch his classic 2-minute moment of biblical truth and may it be sobering to your soul HERE 
Brothers, this truth is also foundational to being a man of God - i.e. having R.C's passion for the Holiness of God and His Glorious Gospel! 

Sunday, August 30, 2020

Recommended Resources for Overcoming Pornography/Maturing in Sexual Purity

Black, Jeffrey. Sexual Sin: Combatting the Drifting and Cheating

Black tells us that people never leap into extreme forms of sin; they “drift” into them. How do we end the cheating and drifting? Because sexuality is spiritual, not purely biological, the solution is to hide God’s Word in our hearts. Here Black shows us how the Bible reaches to the roots of sexual sin.

Black, Nicholas. What’s Wrong with a Little Porn When You’re Single?

“I know porn is wrong for a married person, but I’m single. What can it hurt?” The accessibility of pornography through the Internet means that more singles are asking themselves if porn use really matters. Black explains how porn isolates singles from healthy relationships, sabotages their future marriages, and leads to sexual addiction. Black calls singles to turn from porn and grow healthy, rich relationships with God and others. Using seven practical steps, he equips singles to recognize what underlies their temptation to use porn, fight for obedience with hope, and rely on God for cleansing and a new start.

Cleveland, Mike. Pure Freedom: Breaking the Addiction to Pornography

A 60-day study course designed for men and women who seek to be free from pornography and other forms of sexual impurity.

Lane, Tim. Temptation: Fighting the Urge

How many times have you tried to change a behavior only to find yourself doing the same thing again? Do these phrases sound familiar? “There I go again!” “I’ve had this struggle for years, and I just can’t seem to win.” “I do okay for a while, but then I get caught in the same old sin.” It’s easy to be discouraged when we fall into the same old sins, but God, in the Bible, offers hope to repeat offenders. In Temptation, Lane helps you fight the daily, small battles with temptation by looking at the desires that underlie your behaviors, the different stages of temptation, and how going to Christ in repentance and faith will change your desire life. You will learn that your sin is no match for God’s goodness, power, and grace.

Powlison, David. Coming Clean: Breaking Pornography’s Hold on You 

Is it really possible to come clean once pornography has gained control of your life? David Powlison invites you to learn from a man who experienced Christ’s deliverance from pornography after more than 25 years. In this interview, this man explains how God helped him to recognize his sin and repent from it, enabling him to now consistently experience the joy of choosing purity. Walking through his journey and practical steps toward freedom—including repentance, prayer, counsel, and accountability—his story provides a face of hope for all who are fighting to come clean.

Powlison, David. Pornography: Slaying the Dragon

As explicit sexual images proliferate in films and magazines, on television, and over the Internet, the temptations increase and the bondage seems unbreakable. Christians can find their lives have become a push-pull struggle between indulging in fantasy and resisting it.

Powlison, David. Sexual Addition: Freedom from Compulsive Behavior

If you’re struggling with a sexual addiction of any sort, you understand that feeling of being trapped, out of control, and afraid of being found out. No matter what you try, it seems impossible to break free from the lure of illicit sexual thoughts and practices. In Sexual Addiction, David Powlison encourages those who want to overcome their compulsive sexual behavior to remember that lasting change comes in degrees and is often a slow progressive process. Addiction sufferers will discover powerful action steps to take and introspective heart questions to ask as they seek to conquer this harmful sin issue. 

Reju, Deepak. Pornography: Fighting for Purity 

Is there any hope for men and women trapped in the snare of pornography addiction? Deepak Reju shows that this worship problem can be fought only with a greater love for Christ. This month-long devotional, with reflection questions and practical suggestions for action, gives readers the resources they need to fight the war being waged for their soul.

Smith, Winston. It’s All About Me: The Problem with Masturbation

It’s normal. “Everyone does it.” “Nobody gets hurt.” These are some commonly held beliefs about sexual fantasy and masturbation, but are they really true? Are sexual fantasies and masturbation harmless ways of dealing with sexual frustration? In It’s All About Me, Winston Smith uses his counseling experience and biblical knowledge to show how these seemingly “harmless” pursuits negatively impact you and your ability to have healthy relationships with the people in your real life. Then he shares how you can build a new inner world founded on Christ’s love, instead of your imaginary fantasies. As you do so, your life will grow richer in real relationships and your fantasy life will pale by comparison.

Challies, Tim. Sexual Detox: A Guide for Guys Who Are Sick of Porn                      

A huge percentage of men need a porn detox—a moral and psychological reset. Pornography corrupts our thinking, weakens our conscience, warps our sense of right and wrong, and twists our understanding and expectations of sexuality. We need a reset by the One who created sex. Tim Challies seeks to help men reorient their understanding of sex, both in the big picture and in the act itself, according to God’s plan for this great gift.

Chester, Tim. Closing the Window: Steps to Living Porn Free

Tim Chester’s offering on the topic of living porn free is a much-needed resource that balances the principles of God’s grace and the gospel with other resources that stress external precautions related to pornography. Chester does an excellent job connecting our motivation to be porn-free with the greater themes of God’s glory and beauty.

Daniels, Robert. The War Within: Gaining Victory in the Battle for Sexual Purity 

Sexual sins are some of the most difficult to conquer. They’re also some of the most destructive—leaving individuals, marriages, families, and churches devastated. Can men today possibly win the war for sexual purity? This courageous book offers a resounding “Yes!” It also provides a battle strategy based on the promises and power of God—and on the author’s experiences in breaking a 25-year struggle with sexual sin. Newly revised and expanded, this book will lead you to a new level of purity and will encourage you that in this terribly private struggle, you are never alone.

Dykas, Ellen. Sexual Sanity for Women: Healing from Sexual and Relational Brokenness 

Sexual Sanity for Women guides participants through the process of understanding why they struggle with destructive relational and sexual patterns and how the gospel brings change. Twenty lessons guide participants to understand God’s good design for sexuality, the underlying reasons they struggle with sexual brokenness, and how the grace and truth of Jesus Christ can be applied to their struggles.

Freeman, John. Hide or Seek: When Men Get Real with God About Sex

You’re not powerless in the fight against pornography and lust. Hide or Seek won’t ask you to jump through hoops; it will suggest one clear step forward. One step to reorient your heart toward God’s love for you. One step to take the energy out of the vicious cycle that keeps you from being the man God has called you to be, the man you want to be.

Lambert, Heath. Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

In Finally Free, Heath Lambert lays out eight gospel-centered strategies for overcoming the deceitful lure of pornography. Each chapter demonstrates how the gospel applies to this particular battle and how Jesus can move readers from a life of struggle to a life of purity.

Piper, John, Editor. Sex and the Supremacy of Christ

The Bible has a way of shocking us. If Americans could still blush, we might blush at the words, “Rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love” (Prov. 5:18-19). But, of course, sin always tries to trash God’s gifts. So we can’t just celebrate sex for what God made it to be; we have to fight what sin turned it into. The contributors to this unique volume encourage you to do both: celebrate and struggle. 

Powlison, David. Making All Things New: Restoring Joy to the Sexually Broken

Sexuality was a part of God’s good creation from the beginning. But with sin came a world filled with sexual brokenness. But God is always in the business of restoration. Making All Things New offers hope for both the sexually immoral and the sexually victimized, pointing us to the grace of Christ, who mercifully intervenes each moment in our lifelong journey toward renewal. David Powlison casts a vision for the key to deep transformation, better than anything the world has to offer—not just fresh resolve, not just flimsy forgiveness, not just simple formulas, but true, lasting mercy from God, who is making all things new.

Street, John. Passions of the Heart: Biblical Counsel for Stubborn Sexual Sins

John Street takes a hard look at the heart idolatries that lead even Christians to commit egregious sexual sin . . . showing how to bring lasting change by identifying the underlying motivations of the heart. Here there is hope: any sin can be forgiven, and Christ gives men and women the grace to mortify fleshly desires and to humbly live for Him. 

Tripp, Paul. Sex and Money: Pleasures That Leave You Empty and Grace That Satisfies 

Pleasure. We live in a world obsessed with finding it, passionate to enjoy it, and desperate to maintain it. Chief among such pleasures are sex and money—two pleasures unrivaled in their power to captivate our attention, demand our worship, and drive us to hide or to despair. Paul Tripp pulls back the curtain on the lies that surround us and on the distortions we often overlook. As Tripp thoughtfully exposes the insanity of our culture, he also wisely speaks to our own tendencies to fall prey to sexual and financial idolatry. Sex and Money ultimately directs us to God’s Word and the liberating power of the gospel.

White, David. God, You, & Sex: A Profound Mystery

David White helps readers develop a Scripture-based perspective on human sexuality that goes beyond just wait until you’re married. God, You, & Sex doesn’t sidestep the sexual revolution that has come to bitter fruition in teen and young adult hookup culture. In the face of these messages and the pervasiveness of sexual temptation, White helps Christian men and women find compelling reasons to obey God with their sexuality. By establishing a positive theology of sex from Christian Scripture, White ultimately points to Jesus Christ as the Bridegroom and sheds light on broken sexuality, pornography, same-sex marriage, sex outside of marriage, and other relevant topics for young Christians. 

White, David. Sexual Sanity for Men: Re-creating Your Mind in a Crazy Culture 

Men, you can make sexually sane choices! Written for Christian men struggling with any form of sexual brokenness, Sexual Sanity for Men helps men understand that sexual sin starts in their minds and hearts. It shows them how knowing Christ breaks their chains, builds spiritual brotherhood, and helps them take practical steps to re-create their minds in a God-focused direction. The Sexual Sanity for Men workbook is ideal for one-on-one mentoring, college age discipleship groups, and men’s small group study. 

Pornography and Marriage (4 Resources) 

Black, Nicholas. What’s Wrong with a Little Porn When You’re Married

You feel emotionally isolated and sexually disengaged from your spouse. Could it be that the fantasy world of pornography has intruded upon your real-life marriage? Nicholas Black identifies four key ways that pornography negatively impacts marriages and encourages all who struggle to look to God for help. Black’s three practical, biblical steps toward freedom help those who struggle to find lasting joy in loving God and their real-life spouse rather than the temporary satisfaction of pornography use. A growing relationship with Jesus will grow your relationship with your spouse and bring lasting change.

Coyle, Rachel. Help! She’s Struggling with Pornography

Pornography is a taboo topic among many Christians today—especially women. But women can and do become enslaved to it. Impure images, steamy novels, even television dramas captivate many minds and hearts. This mini-book redefines pornography in biblical terms and explores its dangers, including those of the socially acceptable forms particularly alluring to women. Learn how the Bible exposes the heart of the problem and provides abundant hope for freedom.

Croft, Brian. Help! He’s Struggling with Pornography

Sexually explicit material is more readily available now than ever before, and a struggle with pornography is often the greatest snare for a Christian man today. Though Christians have been transformed by faith in Jesus, we are harmed by our sex-saturated culture. How can a Christian man find victory over pornography? This mini-book presents the only true solution: God’s power working through the gospel within the context of the local church.

Tiede, Vicki. Your Husband Is Addicted to Porn: Healing After Betrayal

Betrayed. Broken. Angry. Devastated. Chances are, you’ve felt one or all of these since discovering your husband’s interest in porn. How can you possibly trust him again? How do you rebuild your broken heart and fractured marriage? Vicki Tiede understands personally what a difficult struggle lies ahead and offers the comfort and wisdom she received from God in the wake of such betrayal. Offering helpful, practical resources, she guides you through the process of understanding the problem, finding hope in Christ, and seeking help.

THANKS TO DR. BOB KELLEMAN FOR THIS COMPILATION